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I was born and raised in Seaside, Oregon, and I am proud to call the Pacific Coast my home. While I have never been married yet myself, my parents divorced before I can remember when I was very young, and it was not amicable. To this day they do not speak to each other, and in my memory the only time my parents have willingly been in the same room and taken a picture with me together was at my High School Graduation, and they did not smile.
My younger brother and I spent our entire lives with this reality, being ferried from house to house every few days and learning how to live out of a duffel bag. And to be honest, as we’ve grown into adults the troubles and difficulties have changed but not really gotten easier. Who do we spend Christmas with this year? Thanksgiving? Which parent do I sit with at my younger cousin’s sporting events? I usually go with first half, Mom, second half, Dad.
Consequently, I have a very intimate knowledge of how divorce affects families, and a particularly vested interest in helping children dealing with that process. Even more so that I can remember a time when I had zero sympathy for my friends and peers when their parents got divorced, like I said it was always just my reality. Yet as I’ve grown older and matured, I look back and count myself blessed that it happened before I can remember and I never experienced the trauma of the event itself, just the fallout. Many of my peers’ parents divorced when we were in Middle School, can you imagine going through puberty and your parent’s divorce at the same time?
All that’s to say, I am well acquainted with the stress and trauma and frustration and confusion that a separation brings into family dynamics. But I also know it doesn’t have to be that way, and I hope to help and remind people going through this process that things can and will work out. There will be difficulties certainly, but I assure you there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
I was born and raised in Seaside, Oregon, and I am proud to call the Pacific Coast my home. While I have never been married yet myself, my parents divorced before I can remember when I was very young, and it was not amicable. To this day they do not speak to each other, and in my memory the only time my parents have willingly been in the same room and taken a picture with me together was at my High School Graduation, and they did not smile.
My younger brother and I spent our entire lives with this reality, being ferried from house to house every few days and learning how to live out of a duffel bag. And to be honest, as we’ve grown into adults the troubles and difficulties have changed but not really gotten easier. Who do we spend Christmas with this year? Thanksgiving? Which parent do I sit with at my younger cousin’s sporting events? I usually go with first half, Mom, second half, Dad.
Consequently, I have a very intimate knowledge of how divorce affects families, and a particularly vested interest in helping children dealing with that process. Even more so that I can remember a time when I had zero sympathy for my friends and peers when their parents got divorced, like I said it was always just my reality. Yet as I’ve grown older and matured, I look back and count myself blessed that it happened before I can remember and I never experienced the trauma of the event itself, just the fallout. Many of my peers’ parents divorced when we were in Middle School, can you imagine going through puberty and your parent’s divorce at the same time?
All that’s to say, I am well acquainted with the stress and trauma and frustration and confusion that a separation brings into family dynamics. But I also know it doesn’t have to be that way, and I hope to help and remind people going through this process that things can and will work out. There will be difficulties certainly, but I assure you there is a light at the end of the tunnel.